I Hate Being Social, So What?
09 May 2017
Oh! Not again! Turning down office party invitations makes me feel awkward every time but I just cannot bear the thought of sitting around a table and making pointless conversation in precious hours I could spend with the people I actually love—my family.
Don’t get me wrong: I like my colleagues and I get on well with them. I am not shy either. It’s just that I don’t like the idea of socialising with them after hours. Work is work and it should be done within the hours…. Must it eat up my private time as well for no good reason other than to eat peanuts and crack PJs with the people I see all day?
After office hours I’d rather come home to my family than indulge in ‘networking’ as it’s called by my colleagues. I have done it for enough years of my life and now I’m at a stage when I feel I can call the shots and say NO to things that reduce the quality of my life. I dislike small talk and get my emotional satisfaction from my husband and family. Other unnecessary interactions sap my energy. I have a beautiful family which is my priority any given day. I have enough on my plate at home and other diversions are really not required.
I am usually called an arrogant person—which I am not—but I no longer bother about what people say about me. Mental peace and simplicity in life are very precious to me.
See, I do like occasionally and am happy to do them favours and so on. I am not anti-social, but I am selectively social. I have two best friends who I love, and I don’t really need more. I am not a “group of friends” person. I really can’t keep up with all that. I do go to social gatherings where it's very important for me to be there but for the heck of it I don’t enjoy it. Unless it’s absolutely required, I try to not go. Life is too short to do things that make one miserable!
Most often I am called boring by some people. Some say I need to step out, meet people and get a life. But I do have a life—with my family. I don’t need to pretend to do small talk to feel accepted in front of my family. My family accepts me the way I am and I love that. I am friendly but have set my boundaries the way I prefer. I have good relations with people who know me. That’s all that matters to me. There is no negativity in my life.
Sometimes I feel my standards may be very high and most people just don't make the cut. I think it's fair enough. It's my life and I should be deciding who I want to spend my time with—we all want to be happy at the end if the day, isn’t it? I’d rather be home with a close friend or two than among a crowd of acquaintances. I love my privacy and my private life. I am not the sort of person to fake or pretend to please others. I just don't want the arrogant tag that I get often. I am not boring either. Just like people are careful about how they spend their money, I am careful about how I spend my time.
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