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After looking at my sister, I feel arrange marriages are better

22 Mar 2017

Arrange marriage is way better than love marriage.... I think

Why do I say that?

Because from my experiences I strongly feel that way...

I am a 24 year old single woman. I have  come to strongly believe that IN Indian context, it’s better to have an arrange marriage...

I have seen my friends falling in love with boys... I would say that the sad reality in India is that only 10% of them actually are able to get married.  

All my friends had  either no guts to approach their parents or the men didn’t in their life... So it was more like a dream that they lived during college and early work days and then let the dream die down its own death...

For others who tried hard, most face a rejection at family and the lines of rejection are so superficial: Caste, religion, status and sometimes sub-castes.. I mean its a joke.

I am a Kanyakubj Brahmin. How do I find someone first in my caste and sub-caste and then even force myself to fall in love with him??? That’s like a lot of effort...

And what happens to the 10% who get married in love... Their story my friends is worse

My sister managed to get married to the love of his life. Jiju stood by her and put his feet down that he would marry her or marry no one... His parents had to bow down...

But what happened after marriage? His mom and his sister actually hate my sister... They find her a threat that has taken their “Sahara” and “Yuvraj” away... And my jiju, he is constantly proving to the ladies that he is as much theirs as he was before marriage...

She feels uncomfortable throughout the time she is in home. She is picked on the silliest of things... Any family function at their side, she is made to feel like an outcast...

Arey, hamare yaha aise hota hai... Yehi dikkat hoti hai apne parivar se alag shadi karne ki?

And then any small thing she does, becomes an issue. She removed her slippers at a place that was wrong according to her mother in law... This became the reason for her to  lash out on her... I mean seriously?

I mean are they serious? Are these the dialogues you should make a girl who is an MBBS graduate? She is a trainee medical professional!

I mean that’s her worth? And my Jiju too is almost getting a punishment to get married to someone he loved... The poor man hardly sits relaxed and can enjoy a relaxed moment with his wife and his family...

It’s like a mini war is going on... My mom says it will all settle down in few years of marriage... But my question is why few years? The early days of marriage are what  make a couple bond and here my poor jiju and didi are busy pleasing others and taking useless bashing for their love...

I am sure had this been an arrange marriage, everything would have been OK!

Love is eternal, it is the most beautiful but then we should be a society that cherishes love and not bashes love!

UNTIL that happens, I would say arrange marriages are better! Atleast the people in the families would be more KIND!

 

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Tags: #ArrangeMarriage #LoveMarriage