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I and my husband left our silicon valley jobs to find OUR happiness again!!

27 Feb 2017

I and my husband both graduated from Massachusetts Institute of technology. We worked in Silicon Valley and both of us got home a salary of upwards 3,50,000 $.

We had everything going for us... Had luxury cars and a plush house with 2 lavish pools... Yet there was discord, discomfort, mental agony...

We were stuck in the problem of being in the club of 99... We were at a place where competition was cut throat... Every passing day made us feel we were not good enough... Someone was making more than us and someone was killing it with a better innovation or a better job...

We both were lost in the cycle of envy, hopelessness and despair. Even at our dinner table, our tabs were on and we would be constantly checking mails, our LinkedIn feeds... Which ex-colleague is placed at what position... Who has started their own thing and so on? We had no time for each other and no time to start a family...

I realised that we were like these crazy hate worthy robots just living, working, feeding on technology....

 

Constantly grappled with feelings of not having enough, not being good enough we were living an animated life....

Of course we could buy all sorts of things, had a comfortable living but then happiness was nowhere to be seen... We did not have time for each other, no time to raise a family...

I just randomly looked for counselling options online and found ePsyClinic. I and my husband started self-reflection therapy here to get in touch more with our wants, desires and true self... Therapy helped us both know ourselves better... The real Lakshmi and Srini those were lost in this mad race...

One day my counsellor told me to go back and revisit my old memories from childhood...

Taking this as an assignment I started sifting through old pictures of my parents and I saw them happy... I saw their studio clicked pictures posing as Dharmendra and Hema malini. I saw pictures of them having food at the local street and pictures of our birthdays. My mom and dad looked genuinely happy...

As I looked through their images, I got the thought of now looking at me and my husband’s picture... I picked up my laptop and what I saw was heartbreaking. Even at the best of places in the world, the genuine smile at our faces was missing. The pictures spoke that we were tired... And then I realised that I am already 39 and my husband is 40. Half of our life is gone and in this mad race we are yet to find our happiness. The other half will be gone this way too?

I just had my life crashing down right in front of my eyes... I wasn’t happy and for the first time I acknowledged that this is not the life I had imagined.

 I spoke to my counsellor that I wished to go back... I wanted an easy life... That was me... My counsellor was so calm... She just suggested me to think more on this and also speak about it to m y husband and if this is what he wanted in life as well?

I spoke to my husband... I told him I wanted to go back to India to our hometown Kerala and lead a normal and happy life... He first laughed at me thinking I was joking but when I told him I was serious; he looked at me stunned...

For the next few days we returned to business as usual. 

I don’t know if he was hurt too and was tired of leading this kind of life... He said one day that he would take a sabbatical from work and try and live in Kerala as an experiment... He won’t put the papers down yet... I couldn’t believe my ears... I was so happy...

In the next 15 days, we were back in our ancestral home at Kerala. Our families were so happy to see us and we were excited once again like babies!!!

My husband and I started a small coaching centre in the town.... We used to be free by evening 4:30... We had time for the first time in our adult life to go back on scooter rides... He had time to buy gajra for me and appreciate the kohl in my eyes... We had time to enjoy the flavours of our rasam and the niceties of life... We used to go for walks, laugh, smile and be happy... We loved every bit of it!

My husband decided to put his papers down and we decided to fold our stuff from America and come back home...

Today its 7 months since we are back in India and I am 3 months pregnant... I am enjoying my life as a baby... I am so happy. I can’t thank enough almighty for giving me back my life again...

 I am happy to enjoy the small good things, the scent of the green trees, my husband’s arms and the chirping sounds of the birds...

Thank god we returned.... Thank god we get to live our life minus the senseless competition that has done no one any good in life!
 

LAKSHMI 

If you too are unhappy, dont know what you want and if the pain cycles are holding you  then self reflective therapy can put you in touch with your real self....

Not everyone needs such radical shifts but if you want YOU to be happy then the connection with your self needs to be established again....

To know more about self-reflective therapy before booking an appointment with us, you can speak now to an ePsyClinic guidance psychologist.

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