The New Beginning of Acceptance for Women
31 Oct 2016
When we talk about mental illness, we talk a lot about psychopathology – genetic and environmental factors. What we don’t talk about is the actual cause. You see, mental illness is not a culmination of critical external factors, it’s also the lack of some crucial internal ones, like respect, acceptance, trust – but most of all, it is the lack of LOVE.
The quintessential Indian society worships the female deities, but fails to revere their own female counterparts.
Women here are taught to adjust, to the point of diminishing of the ‘Self’ to keep their men happy. We live up to our fathers’ wishes, our husbands and their families become our priorities post marriage, our sons the decision makers in later life. We leave our homes, our families, identities even the names we are born with. We are to be dominated, to be told what to do and what not, and should never ever ask the question ‘Why?’
§ Do you know consistent adjustment at the cost of one’s own well being leads to depression?
§ Do you know constant criticism depletes the self confidence, and renders someone to merely being a shadow?
§ Do you know the rate of female suicide in India is four times more than that of men?
§ Do you know India ranks 3rd in the world in terms of female abuse?
Here is the story of Nisha (Many will relate to her)
"I left my home at 24. I looked after you and your family, I bred and raised our daughter & son, and when the question of their identity came, the society wrote your name on their back and led them to the mainstream. No one looked at my contribution, not even you --- until today.
Today my son treats his wife as partner, not as someone less than him. He takes her opinion into consideration while making a decision. He does all the things you never did. Today my son & my daughter favored my name over yours as their identity; today, they accepted that they are as much me as they are you".
A slow but steady change is being taking place, where the quintessential India is gradually moving towards new age India. Pink, the movie points out the partial, judgmental way we treat our women, and openly criticize it. The new age heroes like the Indian cricketers sport their mothers’ name on their jerseys. SRK puts the names of his heroines before him in the title card. Where the world now recognises Priyanka Chopra more than our mainstream male stars.
A Father in Rajasthan wrote in his will that he would want his daughter to do his last rites and not his son! Isn't that powerful?
A husband took longer work leave to take care of the child while his wife was pursuing her project.
These isolated instances suggest a shift in Mindset. A paradigm shift of Sorts
Does this change everything overnight?
Hell, no. What it does is, it gives an opening. Women are not born to serve and make their men happy. As much the partners’ happiness matters, their does too.
Being a classic wife or a super mom at the cost of her own self is not an option anymore. Women, embrace the responsibility you have towards yourself.
Love yourself first; the rest of the world will bask in your happiness and warmth automatically.
Peace of mind is a natural condition, and should be available to everyone, irrespective of gender and social situations. Feelings of contentment, enjoyment, confidence and engagement with the world are all a part of mental wellbeing.
Self-esteem and self-confidence are, too.
As the society changes its outlook towards women, things will keep improving. But as a woman or a man, you have the duty towards keeping your self uplifted and mentally healthy.. Better Mental health is the need for a healthy living and don't let the society's DRAG to make you feel unhappy
Here are the 4 steps to mental wellbeing:
i. Connect: connect with the people around you: your family, friends, colleagues and neighbors. Spend time developing these relationships.
ii. Be Active: Take a walk, go cycling or play a game of football. Find an activity that you enjoy and make it a part of your life.
iii. New Learning: learning new skills can give you a sense of achievement and a new confidence. So why not take up the hobby you had let gone years ago? Renew that membership in the library, or dust off you old guitar. Just do it.
iv. Be Mindful: be more aware of the present moment, including your thoughts and feelings, your body and the world around you. Some people call this awareness "mindfulness". It can positively change the way you feel about life and how you approach challenges.
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Tags: women, mental wellness, social shift, depression, anxiety