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LGBT community is more prone to Depression because of the social factors

08 Sep 2016

Sasha votes, it does not matter. Sasha does not exhibit excess amount of testosterone. This however, does matter.

Since childhood, Sasha liked to play dolls with his sister more that kicking a football in the local ground.

As he grew up, he was expected to be more ‘manly’, and was consistently pressured to play his role of the gender stereotype. He was often bullied and harassed at school, called names, while his teachers never came to his rescue.

They rather asked him to behave ‘normally’ and not act as girls. With puberty, he felt more attracted towards strong men rather than girls of his age. His parents took him to doctors as well as shamans to cure his ‘ailment’. Sasha felt suffocated, he did not understand why can’t people leave him alone and accept him the way he was. He was afraid to go out alone, or go to school. He was isolated by his classmates, and had no friends. He felt he was a disappointment to his parents, and became depressed about it. He tried suicide a couple of times.

He lived in a dark hole of shame, and no matter how hard he tried, he could not change it to others satisfaction. It was not until he went to University and met Shaqil he realized the he was in fact, gay, and it was nothing to be ashamed of.

Shaqil gave him the warmth of love and friendship he always craved for, and they fell in love. His parents were shocked beyond their wits, and lamented about their misfortune. They felt marrying Sasha off to a girl would be the right cure. Sasha was torn. He could not marry a girl, and was unable to convince his parents; at the same time, he could not imagine a life without Shaqil.

Once again he went into depression, and started to avoid people. He would stare at the ceiling from his bed all day long, skip meals and cry a lot. He did not find a way out of his despair, and one night left the home to jump off a bridge. It was at this moment he decided to call us at ePsyclinic.

 

Studies show that lesbian, gay and bisexual people show higher levels of anxiety, depression and suicidal feelings than heterosexual men and women.

Rates of drug and alcohol misuse have also been found to be higher.

Although society has changed and homophobic prejudice is less common than it used to be, most lesbian, gay and bisexual people have experienced a range of difficulties in their lives. These can contribute to mental health problems. For some, other factors such as age, religion or ethnicity can further complicate mental distress.

 

Many gay people have experienced

  • hostility or rejection from family, parents and friends
  • bullying and name calling at school
  • rejection by most mainstream religions
  • danger of violence in public places
  • harassment from neighbors and other tenants
  • casual homophobic comments on an everyday basis
  • embarrassed responses (and occasionally prejudice) from professionals, such as GPs
  • no protection against discrimination at work
  • negative portrayal of gay people in the media

 

The Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network (GLSEN) released a report in 2013 on LGBT youth that states the following:

· 55% of LGBT youth feel unsafe at school because of their sexual orientation, and 37% feel unsafe because of their gender expression.

·74% of LGBT youth were verbally harassed because of their sexual orientation, and 55% were verbally harassed because of their gender expression.

·16% were physically assaulted, either punched, kicked, or injured with a weapon, because of their sexual orientation, and 11% of them experienced this type of assault because of their gender expression.

Experiencing these difficulties can mean many gay and bisexual people face mental health issues, including:

  • difficulty accepting their sexual orientation, leading to conflicts, denial, alcohol abuse and isolation

 

  • trying to keep their sexuality a secret through lying, pretending or leading a double life

 

  • low self-esteem because of how people see and treat them

 

  • increased risk of self-harm and suicide attempts

 

  • damaged relationships or lack of support from families

 

  • post-traumatic stress disorder and depression from long-term effects of bullying

 

 

 

What if your son, daughter, friend or brother is gay?

a. Do not to see a gay person as having a disability and needing special treatment. Remember, gay people are perfectly normal and simply want you to carry on as normal and without fuss. 

 

b. Remember, your friend is not defined by their sexuality any more than you are. He's not your gay/lesbian friend - he's your friend. 

 

c. You don't need special skills to be a good friend or parent to a gay person. Valuable skills like the ability to listen, providing a hug when someone is hurting, or being able to offer good advice, are as important whether a loved one is gay or straight.

 

d.It might be the case that you've never met a gay person before and have questions about homosexuality. They need and want the same things you do in order to be happy: love, friendship, financial stability, a safe home etc.

 

Don’t go overboard. Don’t try to set up their dates with someone of the same orientation just because they are gay or lesbians. They can take care of themselves as well as you.

Don’t assume anything about someone because of their sexuality. 

 

If you are a parent, remember:

Your child's homosexuality is not a rejection of your values or lifestyle.

Your child didn’t choose to be gay. Help them to make the most of who they are.

Don't assume that because your child is young that they don't know themselves or their sexuality.

You don’t want your son or daughter sneaking around and not telling you about their lives, but they will do if you make life tough for them over this. Talk to them and encourage openness.

 

Dealing with the challenges of being Gay/Lesbian

Sasha found his way back to life the way he wanted it after a few sessions with us. You could do it too.

1. "Acceptance" is a word that takes on a whole new meaning when you come out. You will discover that there will be people, even people you care about, who will never accept you for being gay or who aren't pleased with the way you are, and that can hurt a lot. But when you accept yourself, you empower yourself, and no one's opinion can take that from you.

2.It feels good to be looked at, especially now that you can look back. But you need to remember that you're fine just the way you are, and you should apply that positive attitude to the gay people around you.

3.Cherish the friends who stood by you, with or without similar orientation. Friendship goes way beyond gender, and is one of the most strengthening relationships we form in life.

4.It is important to remember that you can't fight every battle, and it's incredibly taxing on your mental health to always be angry. Conserve your energy and use it when it's really needed.

5.Sure, it's annoying when that guy you want to date just can't seem to accept the fact that he's gay and come out. Don’t judge him, understand his fears and insecurities. Remember, you were once closeted too.

“When all Americans are treated as equal, no matter who they are or whom they love, we are all more free.” -- U.S. President Barack Obama

We, as the human race still have a long way to go before we achieve this. But there has been a shift of paradigm, of opinion and viewpoints. It’s time we join hands as humans, and not let stereotypes keep us apart.

 

If you are facing depression because of the fear that you have in your heart about your security or you feel anxious because of still being treated or looked at differently and you need someone who can help you remain strong, focussed and confident in your life, then 

ePsyClinic.com is that place for you. Just Click the "Chat" Button on left and start writing your message. You will be instantly connected to a psychologist who will help you 


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