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Anna is not alone. Like many other women, she feels more isolation after marriage

31 Aug 2016

Anna had been married for two and a half years when one day an old friend of her called. As they shared their lives, Anna’s friend noticed she talked mostly about her husband, rather than herself. When she asked Anna about it, she simply said this is her life now.


After the phone call, Anna looked back at her life of two and a half years. She’s relocated since marriage, and was not much in touch with her old friends.

Phone calls also lessened over time as all got busy with their lives. While her husband went out to work, Anna was left to cook, clean and look after the house.

She would wait for her husband all day, who would often choose to hang out with his friends after office, rather than coming home.

Anna’s outings became restricted to going to the marketplace and visiting her parents once a year. There was no one to talk to her in the house, no one ask after her all day.

She felt she was living in a void, and felt claustrophobic. Often she got irritable and shouted on her husband.

It would lead to fights, and leave Anna depressed after she cooled down. Her husband would not realize how lonely she felt no matter how hard she tried to explain it.

She longed to be with people, go out and live at times. At times she felt she does not want to live anymore.


Anna is not alone.  


In India, a hefty percentage of married women spend their lives in this isolation, in the homes they share with their husbands. What does this do to them? Let us check it out.


Social, psychological and medical research has now demonstrated conclusively that there is a direct correlation between the degree to which a person feels connected to others and their physical and mental health.

Here are some of the most commonly known effects of NOT feeling a connection to others in one's own home (something many women experience strongly):

·Generally decreased feeling of vitality, less energy and feeling tired more often.

·Greater likelihood of chronic illness such as heart disease, cancer, diabetes, etc.

·More frequent bouts of sickness, such as colds or flu, and longer recovery times.

·Longer recovery times from injury.

·Regular feelings of loneliness.

·Increased likelihood of depression.

·Decreased level of happiness and satisfaction with life in general.

·Shorter life spans.




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As much as it is a hard phase to deal with, please remember that this is not the end of life, and there is always light ahead at the end of the tunnel. 

Talk to your spouse and tell him that you do feel lonely, feel unheard. Please do this calmly and assertively. 

If you have tried this many times and failed and you feel down. And if the loneliness and feeling of abandonment is too much to deal with, kindly consider speaking and talking to a counselor here at Do this for you! Try it for you. You will surely put down your issues behind slowly and steadily with help of a psychologist trained in helping you manage your feelings as well as help you make your surroundings reflective of you!

At the end of the day, life never abandons us, please do not abandon yourself.

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Tags: marital issues, isolation, depression, coping issues