Many women describe their early marriage days as "RAGGING"
04 Aug 2016
Many homes welcome the new daughter in law as their own and rightfully try best to comfort her and make her feel part of the family as she is part of her own family.
But in quiet a few homes even today, women experience intense Ragging in the initial days of marriage. Yes you heard it right, Ragging, just like a new college student is ragged in college.
The same ragging that pushes a college student in depression. pushes a woman too in depression, in hurt and pain that stays in for a very long time.
Here are just 5 examples of how the new experience for some women post marriage is like ragging
1. Taming by Rules: As soon as the woman comes in, in some homes, the rule book of the new house is explained in detail and how it is absolutely essential to follow rules of the place here which are different from where the woman is coming from.
And it doesn't only stop at explaining, in some places as soon as the woman does something not in the rule book or against the rule book, she will be pointed out at that. It is the same experience that the students in a new college go through, one that can turn a time for being happy into being nervous and anxious all the time.
2. Group & Outsider: Another thing that a woman experiences close to ragging is when she is left out of the core group of the new family. Be it any discussion or decision or matter, in some homes,she is kept out. This leads to a disconnect in whether to appreciate the new home as her own or feel like an outsider.
3. My property: Just like senior college mates, make the new college mates feel that the college, its people, its staff are their property more than others. Similarly post marriage in some homes, the husband aka the son or the brother is treated as property, either intentionally or unitentionally. But this definitely has an impact on the woman'shappiness, man's peace as well as family friction.