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Post retirement depression in Men: Are families contributing to it ?

17 Mar 2016

Retirement marks a new beginning of freedom, spending more time with family, friends. This honeymoon period like phase, which looks as fascinating as the name but ends after short period of time, shattering hopes of an individual.


There have been several studies reporting that retirement increases the risk of depression (Szinovacz & Davey, 2004).

 Some of the common mistakes we do that usually trigger depressive features in our loved one post retirement are :

  • Spend less time with them, in order to give them space. Though we are spending same duration of time as we use to before but now it’s important to notice that post retirement they have ample amount of time and would like us to spend more time with them. We do it unintentionally as we tend to get busy with our daily schedules forgetting the fact that now our parent or spouse is retired.


  • We ignore their irritable and aggressive behavior on small things. As we think that it’s normal for them to act or behave with irritability or aggression as its sign of ageing. We reassure ourselves that with age people tend to behave like this.


  • Intentionally or unintentionally we tend to keep them away from significant as well as day to day decisions. It can involve financial issues, buying anything for house and the likes. We usually use this  “Dad it’s your time to relax so don’t bother about anything we will take care of it”. Hence giving him indirect suggestion that he is not important any more...


  • We tend to ignore their biological functions like increase or decrease in sleeping pattern and appetite. Thinking that they are just relaxing and it’s OK to sleep or eat more.


  • We aren’t bothered about their disorganized daily schedule as of now. As it’s their retirement phase so let them do what they want to even if it involves sleeping late waking up late, not going out, less interaction than before.

Given below are listed signs and symptoms of depression found in individuals post retirement.

Signs to Look For

  • Increased irritability
  • Do mistakes  often in any work they are involved with
  • Appears to be quiet more often
  • Lack of interest in social interaction, spending more time alone
  • Spending more time alone
  • Increased withdrawal behavior
  • Gets angry quiet easily on small issues
  • Increase/decrease in sleep and appetite
  • Lethargic feeling
  • Increased/ decrease body weight
  • Being negative over each and everything
  • Somatic difficulties like headache, stomach ache, back ache
  • Pay less attention on personal grooming like shaving, hair cut

Tips to keep in mind for their wellbeing

  • Talk: Talk to them at least for an hour everyday and discuss about how was their day, what work they did throughout the day and other fun things too.


  • Decision: try and involve them in each and every discussion related to your family and house. Most importantly,  financial decisions.


  • Avoid: avoid discussing and fighting regarding  property issues in front of them, as it will directly affect their psychological and emotional well being. They are your parents and always want to see entire family happy together.


  • Scheduling: it’s important to keep their schedule organized which should involve exercising at least for an hour in form of jogging, playing sport of their choice. Make them have their meals and sleep on time.


  • Involve: try and involving them in household chores like getting them help you with grocery shopping, vegetable cutting, assisting when you are cooking. This will make them spend quality time with you and also will be benefiting their psychological and emotional well being.


  • Volunteering: Try and convince them to find out any NGO where they can volunteer and spend some time of the day. I bet they will enjoy helping others it can be spending time with children or other elderly.


  • Social Clubs: getting involved with social clubs where they meet the retired individuals and can share their laughs, worries and work experience with them.

Stop Avoiding & Ignoring signs and symptoms of post retirement depression. Follow above mentioned tips as precaution is always better than cure.

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