Is your wife experiencing Homemaker Depression? Its real!
14 Oct 2015
Is your wife’s low and irritable mood taking a toll on your marriage? You come back home and you find your wife all dull and gloomy by staying at home all day? She might be suffering from depression. Read ahead to know and understand more about how depression in homemakers can be a thing and how to manage it!
Does your wife have symptoms of depression?
If your wife experiences persistent low mood, it is likely that you will recognize many of the feelings, physical symptoms, thoughts and behavior patterns in your wife described below.
low patience threshold
Increase or decrease in appetite
Lethargic/lacking in energy
Sleeping too much or too little
She often says or thinks things like
“No-one likes me”
“I'm a waste of space”
“ I'm no good”
“Things will never change”
“I'm a failure/I'm going to fail"
“I can't be bothered”
“It's not worth going on”
“Everything around me irritates and annoys me”
Spending more and more time alone
Staying in bed longer than usual
Keeping to herself
Stopped doing the things she enjoyed
Crying or weeping too often
This is not a formal test to diagnose depression but if your wife has experienced more than 50% of the symptoms above, it is possible that your wife may be experiencing symptoms of low mood or mild to moderate depression.
Let’s discuss some factors responsible for causing this distressing experience:
The factors responsible for the symptoms listed above are:
1. Inadequate preparedness: Some new homemakers may not see the changes coming as a result of their taking up this new role. There are other responsibilities too in marriage that one may not be aware of. If your wife was working before and have had to quit her job , this shift between having a job and not having a job and sudden surge of other responsibilities might have plunged her into depression.
2. Lack of appreciation: A job always gives a sense of accomplishment in terms of appreciation and acknowledgement for the work done in addition to the salary and other perks. But even though a homemaker does a lot of work she never gets “paid” and is hardly appreciated for it.
3. Isolation: Being a Homemaker, makes the social interaction restricted leading to frustration and anger. They have to worker harder on the peer relationships than working married women.
4. Emotional negligence: Homemakers may often feel a sense of isolation or feel neglected because of being confined to the house. They might miss having a social circle or hesitate to be part of a new circle because of household restrictions or excessive responsibility.
Psychological Implications of Depression
If the depression goes undiagnosed or is not checked for a long time, it may lead to disability, complete social withdrawal and it can also affect your physiological health. Untreated depression may lead to Anemia or severe weight loss and fatigue.
Leaving depression behind: Help your wife tips
1. Take care of your wife: Since, she may not be doing these by herself, help her to eat well, sleep well and be physically active. Proper nutrition (diet including omega fatty 3 acid which you will find in fish and vegetables) is important.
2. Her Brain needs a Push-up too! : Concentration and memory problems can arise in homemakers because they are not regularly flexing up brain muscles.
Get her a book for reading. Reading and engaging with a book allows the brain to create an image/ a world of the words one reads. Also, brain puzzles, Crossword, Sudoku and spellathons in morning newspapers could be great brain workouts for her.
Involve her in planning the house budget, or engage her in other discussions.
You can even enroll her for learning a new course/language.
4. Pamper her: Let’s admit this! All women love to be pampered every once in a while. Regularly cuddle her &love her. Buy her a nice dress or something pretty or book a spa/ salon visit for her.
5. Try and keep her involved with achievement oriented activities: Ask her to maintain a log of what she did the whole day; and ask her to evaluate herself at the end of entire day. This is a great key to keep track of her progress which she can do herself. The tasks here could be learning a new course, or a language or even learning to Drive a car.
6. Get a hold on thoughts: Help her socialize with people that motivates her and most of all, help her avoid labeling herself (“I am so stupid”; “I am such a loser”). The latter can be achieved by complimenting her often or telling her what important part she has been in your life.
7. Practice relaxation techniques: There are a lot techniques available which your wife can do by herself. For example, yoga, meditation,deep breathing or progressive muscle relaxation.
8. Seek professional help: In majority of cases, Depression does not go away. Professional help from a Psychiatrist/Psychologist is required.
DISCLAIMER: WHILE WORKING AND TAKING UP A JOB IS ONE OF THE BEST THINGS THAT CAN HELP, THIS ARTICLE FOCUSES MORE ON WOMEN WHO ARE FINDING IT REALLY DIFFICULT TO FIND OR GET INTO A PART TIME OR A FULL TIME JOB DUE TO THEIR CIRCUMSTANCES.
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