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Physical Intimacy after delivery- do you have some misconceptions?

21 Aug 2015

Things were going along just fine in the sex department until you got pregnant and, nine months later, out popped a wailing new-born. Body changes, family changes and new responsibilities can sometimes make post-baby sex more challenging, but what's normal? 

There is no universal cut off on when one can resume sex, ideally most women wait at least six to eight weeks after giving birth to have sex again. Recovery post child birth, is both mental as well as physical. For multiple reasons sex takes a back seat.



Whatever be the reason, let’s look at dispel the biggest myths or incomplete information surrounding sex and after delivery:

Myth: Your sex drive revs back up around six weeks after giving birth.

Fact: Lot of research has shown that though most doctors give women the all-clear for sex six weeks after childbirth, not all women are raring to go. In an interesting study done Trina Read, PhD, a sex therapist in Alberta, Canada, it can take a woman months, even an entire year to regain her sex drive. “Many women completely lose interest in sex for at least a year after the baby is born, because many women associate sex with performing just another chore” she says. As a result most women dispel the touch of her man.


Myth: I had a C-section so sex won’t hurt.

Not a complete truth:  This is a false belief. You will experience just as much if not more discomfort post baby.

Belief that could be a partially true: Your husband is counting down the minutes until you're cleared to have sex again.

Complete truth: Most women feel that their husband’s just can’t wait and ae impatient to have sex. This could be partially true. A number of research studies have shown that what men miss the most is that connection between him and his wife.

One very interesting study conducted Irvine, California–based psychologist and sex therapist Stephanie Buehler, PsyD, proved that male hormones are responsible that eagerness to have sex. The name of this hormone is vasopressin. This is a kind of male bonding chemical, and it is very important as it helps fathers connect with babies—and mothers.

Even if you aren't ready to have sex just yet, a hug or some snuggling can go a long way in the intimacy department.


Myth: My vagina is too loose and my partner will not enjoy sex.

Fact: the vaginal tissue does expand from childbirth, but with most women the anatomy returns to its normal shape in the months following delivery.  However, this change in post doesn’t seem to make sex less enjoyable for most men. Enjoyment has lot to do with how we feel about each other and a strong emotional bonding.


Myth: I am breast-feeding so I don’t need any birth control.

Partially true: Breastfeeding delays the return of your periods. However, you'll ovulate before you have your first period. So there's a chance that you could become pregnant if you rely on your periods returning as a sign that you're fertile again.

Frequent and regular breastfeeding as a form of contraception is called lactational amenorrhoea method (LAM). LAM is about 98 per cent effective.

However, LAM will only work for you if:

Your baby is younger than six months old.

Your periods have not returned.

You are exclusively breastfeeding your baby on demand, both night and day.


Myth: If you need lubricant, something is wrong with you.

Fact: Every woman has heard the "frigid" rumours—that vaginal dryness means you're closed up, disinterested in lovemaking and not sexy. Wrong! "You may be very turned on, but still very dry," says Jaiya. "There is nothing wrong. The postpartum period is a very dry period due to hormonal changes." One could use a lubricant for this. 

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