SEX after delivery- Myths & facts!
21 Aug 2015
Things were going along just fine in the sex department until you got pregnant and, nine months later, out popped a wailing new-born. Body changes, family changes and new responsibilities can sometimes make post-baby sex more challenging, but what's normal?
There is no universal cut off on when one can resume sex, ideally most women wait at least six to eight weeks after giving birth to have sex again. Recovery post child birth, is both mental as well as physical. For multiple reasons sex takes a back seat.
Whatever be the reason, let’s look at dispel the biggest myths or incomplete information surrounding sex and after delivery:
Your sex drive revs back up around six weeks after giving birth.
Fact: Many researches have shown that women are all-clear for sex, six weeks after childbirth. However, not all women are raring to go. In an interesting study done Trina Read, PhD, a sex therapist in Alberta, Canada, it can take a woman months, even an entire year to regain her sex drive. “Many women completely lose interest in sex for at least a year after the baby is born, because many women associate sex with performing just another chore” she says. As a result most women dispel the touch of her man.
So if you don't have the sex drive back, start working with your husband for doing certain types of foreplay... Fondling your breast may not be a good idea... Better area to fondle is your buns, your lips, your ears and your clitoris. Gently and softly, the drive needs to be reved up!
I had a C-section so sex won’t hurt.
This is a false belief. You will experience just as much if not more discomfort post baby. If you had a c-section, consider making love side-by-side so there's no pressure on your wound area. In either cases, use a lubricant to reduce any discomfort you might feel from vaginal dryness.
My vagina is too loose and my partner will not enjoy sex.
COMPLETE MYTH! The vaginal tissue does expand from childbirth, but with most women the anatomy returns to its normal shape in the months following delivery. Even if the shape changes somewhat, pleasure for a man does not comes with tightness, on the contrary it comes with the foreplay, being in the moment and a well lubricated vagina... What you will enjoy is what your MAN will enjoy too. A tighter vagina is discomforting for you. Isn't it? So the man wouldnt enjoy it either just for that!
I am breast-feeding so I don’t need any birth control.
Partially true: Breastfeeding delays the return of your periods. However, you'll ovulate before you have your first period. So there's a chance that you could become pregnant if you rely on your periods returning as a sign that you're fertile again.
Frequent and regular breastfeeding as a form of contraception is called lactational amenorrhoea method (LAM). LAM is about 98 per cent effective.
However, LAM will only work for you if:
Your baby is younger than six months old.
Your periods have not returned.
You are exclusively breastfeeding your baby on demand, both night and day.
If you need lubricant, something is wrong with you.
Fact: Every woman has heard the "frigid" rumours—that vaginal dryness means you're closed up, disinterested in lovemaking and not sexy. Wrong! "You may be very turned on, but still very dry," says Jaiya. "There is nothing wrong. The postpartum period is a very dry period due to hormonal changes." One could use a lubricant for this.
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